Silva Neves Books

MY BOOKS

Compulsive Sexual Behaviours

Silva Neves

Release Date: May 2021

Compulsive Sexual Behaviours offers a unique approach to the struggles people face with their out-of-control sexual behaviours.
This comprehensive guide is deeply rooted in the science of sexology and psychotherapy, demonstrating why it is time to re-think the reductive concept of ‘sex addiction’ and move towards a more modern age of evidence-based, pluralistic and sex-positive psychotherapy. It is an important manual for ethical, safe and efficient treatment within a humanistic and relational philosophy.
This book will be an important guide in helping clients stop their compulsive sexual behaviours as well as for therapists to self-reflect on their own morals and ethics so that they can be prepared to explore their clients’ erotic mind.


Sexology: The Basics

Silva Neves

Release Date: Dec 2022



Sexology: The Basics is the contemporary manual of human sexuality, eroticism, and intimate relationships. It takes you to every corner of the human erotic mind and physiological arousal response for a thorough understanding of all the functional parts of our sexualities, including how we bond, love and have sex from a broad perspective of diversities in sex, gender, and relationships, from monogamy to polyamory, Vanilla to Kink. This book bridges the gaps in our knowledge of sex education.

It is the ultimate guide to answering all the questions you never dared to ask, whether you are a student or a professional, or want to make sense of our often confusing erotic world.


Erotically Queer. A Pink Therapy Guide for Practitioners. 

Edited by Silva Neves and Dominic Davies

Release Date: April 2023

Erotically Queer is a practice guide for clinicians, bringing together experts in their field with pioneering topics within GSRD (Gender, Sex and Relationship Diversity).

Chapters cover an array of topics rarely covered in either clinical or popular literature including lesbian sex, queer menopause, bisexuality, the sex lives of asexuals, sexuality and transgender people, treating anodyspareunia, compulsive sexual behaviours and Chemsex. It also helps practitioners reflect on their biases regarding BDSM/Kink and understand more regarding non-pathologising practices with intersex people.

The book aims to help all clinicians work more effectively with the Queer population, with the most contemporary sexological knowledge.

Relationally Queer: A Pink Therapy Guide for Practitioners.

Edited by Silva Neves and Dominic Davies

Release Date: April 2023

Relationally Queer explores diverse intimate relationship styles and the connections with self for clinicians interested in gender, sex and relationship diversity.

Offering readers a more inclusive and queer-friendly way of thinking about relationships, the book covers a range of topics that include intersectionality, consensual non-monogamy, working with shame, intimate partner violence, religious identities, and living with HIV. Exploring beyond a Eurocentric perspective, the book features a chapter on African-centred therapy and also includes the relationships of often erased populations such as bisexual people, sex workers, people with chronic health issues and trans people.

The book will help psychosexual and relationship therapists, counsellors and psychologists who work with clients of diverse genders, sexualities and relationships.

Sexual Diversity: Being Human through Understanding and Acceptance

Silva Neves

Release Date: July 2025

This book is a deep dive into sexual and erotic diversity. It includes the vast range of sexual and erotic orientations to help us challenge our preconceived ideas about sexuality and eroticism. It encourages us to think outside of the heteronormative narratives and opens our minds to the wide variety of ways people live their lives.

Sexual Diversity: Being Human through Understanding and Acceptance is an in-depth exploration of the vast diversity of sexual and erotic orientations, including heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer identities, as well as erotic diversity from vanilla to kink and everything in between. The book looks at the heteronormative ‘norms’ prescribed by society and how these may be problematic for all populations, including heterosexual people. As part of diversity, the book offers a frame of thinking based on intersectionality. 

REVIEWS OF COMPULSIVE SEXUAL BEHAVIOURS

"Silva Neves brings the understanding of compulsive sexual behaviors into the 21st century with a rigorous review of the past and latest literature and research. His argument that correct language dictates correct treatment is spot on and provides an exhaustive and comprehensive list of action steps for the initial assessment to ensure accurate assessment, diagnosis and treatment. His clinical examples bring all this to life through his clients. His plead for therapists to be not only sex positive but also pleasure positive is timely in a world that is missing proper sex education. I highly recommend this book."

Joe Kort, PhD is a sex and relationship therapist and co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes.  

"Compulsive Sexual Behaviours is a much-needed book taking a sensible, critical, and pragmatic approach to the topic of 'sex addiction'. Silva's book offers an alternative model which puts pleasure, consent, and self-understanding at the heart of the therapeutic endeavour with people who struggle with their sexual behaviour. It contains everything you need to know about the theory and research in this area, plus a helpful and practical guide for practitioners about how to work around this theme with clients. The book is friendly, accessible, and engaging throughout, drawing pluralistically on relevant therapeutic and sexological approaches, and providing nicely inclusive examples of work with clients from across gender, sex, and relationship diversity."
 
Meg-John Barker, author of Sexuality: A Graphic Guide, Enjoy Sex, and The Psychology of Sex. 

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I am based in Mayfair W1, Central London and conduct all sessions online. 

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