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Psychosexual & Relationship Psychotherapy, Sexual abuse and Compulsive sexual behaviours

Psychotherapy provides a confidential, caring and non-judgemental setting that could help you understand and change difficult areas of your life.

I am a specialist psychotherapist in:

  • Psychosexual and relationship therapy. Helping resolve sexual and relationship difficulties. This is available for individuals. Therapy is also available for couples and people in multiple relationships.
  • Post-affair recovery. Helping individuals, couples and people in multiple relationships heal and rebuild their relationship after the disclosure or discovery of an affair.
  • Treatment of compulsive sexual behaviours and problematic use of pornography. Therapy for partners.
  • Sexual trauma therapy and EMDR: therapy for survivors of childhood sexual abuse, rape, relational traumas, neglect in childhood and treatment for PTSD.
  • LGBTQ- specific issues including chemsex, survivors of conversion practices, acceptance of sexuality, coming out, body image issues, the trauma of homophobia.
  • Bereavement and Grief: losing a loved one. Help for the dying. Disenfranchised grief.
  • Clinical supervision for psychotherapists, counsellors and other health professionals.

My model of psychotherapy is integrative and humanistic. It means that I will use different approaches from different therapeutic models to suit your needs best. I integrate psychotherapeutic modalities such as: Gestalt, Psychodynamic, CBT, ACT, Transactional Analysis combined with specific psycho-sexological knowledge and diverse relationships.

I am currently based online only.

My Services

Sex & Relationship therapy

Sex & Relationship. For individuals, couples and people in multiple relationships.

  • Communication problems in relationship(s), including frequent arguments, rows, blaming
  • Healing after the disclosure or the discovery of an affair, sexual and/or emotional betrayal. For more information, Click Here
  • Differences in sexual desire within the relationship(s)
  • Loss of sexual desire
  • Lack of intimacy
  • Learning how to make connections with your partner(s)
  • Sexual problems such as unreliable erections, rapid ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, vaginismus, dyspareunia, difficulties with orgasms.
  • Ending relationship(s) constructively, with empathy.

I'm a kink-aware therapist and safe for sex workers (which means I do not pathologise kink or sex workers)

Compulsive sexual behaviours & problematic use of pornography

Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, most commonly known as "sex addiction"

  • Repetitive and unwanted sexual behaviours having a negative impact on life.
  • Difficulties stopping the sexual behaviours despite negative consequences to life and relationship(s).
  • Feeling bad about the sexual behaviours.
  • Continually engaging in non-consensual non-monogamy (cheating) on partner(s), and feeling confused about it.

Problematic use of pornography

  • Using pornography to the extent of having a negative impact on life.
  • Difficulties reducing or managing the use of porn despite negative consequences to life and relationship(s).
  • Feeling bad about the use of porn.
  • Relationship problems as a result of problematic use of porn.

My treatment for compulsive sexual behaviours and problematic use of porn is holistic, non-shaming with an integrative approach of classic psychotherapeutic methods and modern psycho-sexological interventions.

Trauma Therapy. EMDR. Sexual abuse.
  • Adult survivor of sexual abuse in childhood.
  • Survivors of sexual violence and rape.
  • Treatment of PTS and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).
  • Adverse childhood experiences: physical abuse, psychological abuse, verbal abuse, bullying, other neglects and other adverse childhood experiences.
LGBTQIA+ specific issues.
  • Therapy dedicated to LGBTQIA+ specific issues(Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex people and Asexual)
  • Coming out.
  • Acceptance of sexuality, sexual desires and gender identity
  • Survivors of homophobic attacks.
  • Survivors of conversion practices/ conversion abuse.
  • Recreational drugs and sex, also called Chemsex.
  • Living with HIV, receiving the diagnosis, living with HIV and relationships with different HIV statuses.
  • Body image issues.
  • Diversity of genders, sexualities and relationships. Exploration of all gender identities, diverse sexualities, open relationships and polyamory. Exploration of kink and fetish in a non-judgmental approach. Exploration of asexuality. For more information, Click Here
  • I employ a gender, sexuality, erotic and relationship diversity affirmative approach.
The loss of a loved one. Bereavement and Grief. Help for the dying.
  • I offer therapeutic support for:
  • Making sense of the feelings of grief.

Processing Complex Grief:

  • The loss of someone whom you had an ambivalent relationship with.
  • The loss of a loved one who died by suicide.
  • The loss of a child.
  • The loss of a loved one by sudden death and traumatic death.

I do not use a "disorder" framework when working with Complex Grief.

  • The loss of your sexual self.
  • Disenfranchised grief.
  • Help for the dying, from terminal diagnosis, decline and death.
LOW COST therapy for Compulsive Sexual Behaviours

Are you struggling with compulsive sexual behaviours?

Are you distressed because you feel that your pornography use is out of control?

Low cost help is available!

I have a team of therapists offering low-cost therapy for people struggling with sexual compulsivity.

Our approach is sex-positive, non-pathologising and informed by sexology.

For a list of specialist therapists, Click Here

Therapy for Sex Workers

I provide safe and ethical therapy for sex workers and their partners, which means that I do not pathologise or shame sex workers for their choice of work. The problems I help sex workers and their partners with include:

  • Sex and relationship problems
  • Post-trauma stress symptoms
  • Difficulties due to being stigmatised and marginalised
Clinical Supervision

I provide ongoing clinical supervision for psychotherapists and counsellors working in psychosexual and relationship therapy, trauma therapy, grief therapy and general therapy.

I also offer one-off consultations for psychotherapists, counsellors and other mental health professionals.

Media Work

I am regularly invited to participate in television programmes, and interviews on radio, magazines, newspapers and podcasts.

Training and Speaking

I am regularly invited to speak at events internationally, and offering clinical trainings for counsellors, psychotherapists and psychologists.


I am an author. I write books, book chapters and articles in journals and magazines.

Get in touch

I provide therapy in English and in French

I currently offer consultations online only via Zoom.

All enquiries are usually answered within 48 hours apart from weekends and holidays when it may take longer. All contact is strictly confidential.

I'm currently fully booked. I'm happy to recommend my trusted colleagues. Get in touch with the contact form above or on sntherapy@gmail.com.

My location

I offer appointments via Zoom at present.

I am fully trained and qualified to provide online therapy.

Get in touch by e-mail: sntherapy@gmail.com

Before engaging in online therapy, please make sure that your internet connection is good enough and fast enough to be able to sustain a Zoom call.

I provide therapy in English and in French

Make sure that you are in a quiet and confidential room where you can't be overheard.

I am based in Mayfair W1, Central London and conduct all sessions online.

Fees & availability

Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy: £130

Trauma Therapy: £130

Each session lasts 50 minutes.

The fee is payable by bank transfer at the end of each session.

Please note that my name may appear on your bank statement.

Reduced fee

Unfortunately, all my reduced fee appointments are currently fully booked. Due to high demand, I have closed my waiting list.

For reduced fee consultations, I recommend:

  • COSRT accredited psychosexual and relationship therapist: Guillermo Llorca
  • COSRT registered psychosexual and relationship therapist: Simon Lyne


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